A woman has shared a reassuring message to any bride-to-be stressing out about their big day as she explains how she handled the moment two guests showing up to her wedding in white gowns
Although everyone knows you shouldn’t wear white to another woman’s wedding, it doesn’t stop people from doing it year after year. That’s exactly what happened to one bride when not one, but two, women showed up in white gowns to her special day.
However, rather than making a scene, she shared how her reaction not only brought her peace but showed her grace and decorum. She said on Reddit: “Two women wore white to my wedding and I didn’t care. One woman was in her 50s/60s and her dress was solid cream, floor length, with a few gold beaded accents. The other was late 20s/early 30s and wore a bright white tea length dress with a few coloured florals that only made up maybe 5% of the dress if that.”
She says she only noticed them during the cocktail reception. But rather than let it ruin her evening, she just laughed to herself about it.
She added: “I had a little laugh internally, and then moved on with the night. In that moment, I remembered that everyone’s eyes were on me and if anyone else was spending their time thinking about it, that’s not my problem.
“I know not everyone can have this mindset, and I especially think it matters who is the ‘white dress offender’.
“For example, these were two very extended family members, rather than someone in my immediate circle.”
Sharing a message to other brides-to-be, she added: “All this to say, try not to overthink it leading up to your wedding, and let it roll off your back if it happens because someone else’s attire at your wedding is so not worth getting worked up about when you only have a few hours with your favourite people to celebrate the beautiful occasion of your wedding.
“It is not a reflection of you, rather a reflection of those guests.”
While most users thanked her for her mindset, others opened up about their fears of being ‘overshadowed’ by a guest on their own big days.
One user said: “The only time I really think it’s a faux pas is when it’s the mother of the groom (and no one else is wearing white in the wedding party). She’s in pictures with the bride.
“Guests, they blend in with the background, good for you for being so realistic and enjoying your day.”
Another user added: “To be honest, I think anybody who wears white doesn’t realize how foolish they actually look to do that at a wedding just screams. Please pay attention to me.”
A third user said: “You’d think it’d be common sense. My older sister told me she was planning on wearing a white lacy sundress to my wedding.
“I told her no and she seemed genuinely confused as to why she shouldn’t. My brother had to butt in and say ‘Uh… because it’s her wedding’.”
