Deciding who is on your wedding guest list can be a nightmare to organise, but a wedding singer advises couples to be careful regarding ‘gargoyle guests’ – it could be one of your family members
Being a wedding singer sounds like a pretty fun job, but one songstress has revealed that the job comes with having to deal with “nightmare” guests.
Deciding a wedding guest list is never easy and it can often cause riot between friends, family members, and any potential plus ones. But with a capacity limit at the majority of wedding venues, some tough decisions have to be made. But one thing is for certain – no one wants anyone to ruin their special day.
Wedding singer Rachel Darwin says she can always spot “gargoyle guests” a mile off. The singer has over 20 years experience at “countless weddings” both as a performer and guest.
Rachel pointed out that no one should have to invite anyone they do not want to, to their wedding day. In an article the writer and singing teacher wrote for bridal magazine, Rock n Roll Bride, Rachel said: “When it comes to surviving the nightmare wedding guest, no one should go into battle alone.
“I’m not talking about the silly guests who get a bit too squiffy and say something stupid in a speech anymore. I’m talking about those guests who have caused you real emotional harm in your life, who, for one reason or other, are present at your wedding.”
Rachel explained that she has often noticed that family members tend to be the worst guests. She explained: “Your nightmare wedding guest might come in the form of a parent, a sibling, a very closely-related family member, who has done you emotional harm in the past.
“Maybe even during the wedding-planning process – and whose unpredictable behaviours you and/or your partner are still struggling to navigate now. This sort of situation can be difficult at any time but during a wedding, it can be downright destructive.”
She added: “We could be talking about a ghoulish grandmother, who gnashes her teeth and shows her claws whenever you express any desire that doesn’t align with hers. It could be a clumsy cousin, who knocks over a Kilner jar tealight, igniting a hay bale and setting your veil on fire.
“It could even be a fiendish friend, who gets so drunk he tries to kiss one of your bridesmaids (twice!) even though he has a long-term girlfriend back home. And then never speaks to anyone in your group again just so he doesn’t have to face up to it.”
Rachel advices 2024 brides and grooms to call upon their most trusted guests – such as bridesmaids – to monitor those guests who forget their alcohol limit. The singer commented: “Don’t keep up a dumb, proud pretence of perfection. No one’s family is perfect.
“Let your friends in. They will help you get through it. Just communicate and delegate. The two of you [who are getting married] should not be the ones having to deal with these things on your wedding day.”
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