A woman has opened up about the negativity she faces due to being part of a throuple, and while she says it can be ‘tough’, their love is ‘beautiful’ – and it’s made them ‘stronger’
A woman who is part of a throuple is used to people judging their relationship, and although she admits the negativity can be “tough” sometimes, it’s actually made them stronger.
Alana, 27, has a boyfriend who is called Kevin, 33, and they have another girlfriend called Megan, 37. Alana and her boyfriend met Megan through a dating app two years ago, and now live together as a throuple with their brand new puppy.
And while it might sound like a controversial set-up, the couple do everything together you might expect in a more conventional relationship. They sleep in the same bed every night, split the bills, and have a list of chores to follow.
Marketing assistant Alana explained: “Megan loves cooking so she primarily does that. Me and Kevin are also happy to do it when she wants a break. We pretty much split everything evenly including rent and bills.
“We will of course treat each other here and there with meals or gifts just like any other couple. We also have chores, even though we choose our preferred ones. Kevin is always a gentleman and cleans the bathrooms.”
And while this works for them, there are others who get angered by their relationship status and accuse them of committing a sin. “Fear often drives hateful reactions, especially when people encounter something new,” said Alana.
She continued: “It sometimes feels like people are looking for drama or to poke holes in our relationship. We knew when we started dating that unfortunately, some people like to destroy beautiful things and we think questions like that fall into that category. While we strive not to let negativity affect us, it’s admittedly tough.”
In a recent viral video on Instagram, the throuple revealed some of the most common things people say to them – including that they are going to “hell,” or asking whether they will be adding a “fourth” to the mix. But it’s not just strangers who struggle to understand their dynamic.
According to Alana, certain people, including family members, have struggled to accept them. She explained: “It’s challenging when loved ones can’t embrace who we are together. Additionally, we’ve faced backlash from those whose beliefs don’t align with our lifestyle.
“Despite our efforts to respond with love, the weight of negative comments can sometimes feel overwhelming.” However, they actually think the negativity has made their relationship stronger.
“In any relationship, communication is vital but in our dynamic, it’s absolutely crucial,” said Alana. She added: “It’s been a learned skill to consistently express our feelings and concerns without reservation, and it’s something we continue to actively practice.”
Alana and Kevin, who works as head of programme management, started dating in 2017, and decided to add a third person to their relationship so that she could “explore her sexuality”. Alana explained: “I brought it up to Kevin to see if he would want to do that with me.
“We were initially just looking for something fun, nothing too serious, but after talking with Megan and getting to know her, everyone wanted to make it a permanent thing.
“We were drawn to committing to this type of relationship after talking every day for a month, and after meeting in person at a café, we realised we immediately clicked really well.”
And despite the negativity, Alana explains being in a throuple has “brought us surprising positives that have enriched our lives in unexpected ways”. She added: “One remarkable aspect is the depth and variety of emotional support we offer each other.
“Despite the external judgement, our commitment to each other and the strength of our relationship have helped us weather these challenges and emerge even stronger. The amount of love shared between us is really beautiful!”
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