She has taken to Reddit to ask if she could be more supportive – after her boyfriend telling her its ‘ridiculous’ that she eats so many snacks and will ‘regret it one day’, but she feels like he is being controlling
A woman has come under fire after revealing that she was eating junk food in front of her boyfriend who is on a diet. It comes after her partner was told by his doctor that he was overweight and “at a high risk for diabetes”.
The 27-year-old girlfriend posted on the AITA (Am I The A**hole) sub-reddit asking if she was in the wrong. Reddit were not very sympathetic for her plight.
In her post she wrote: “My (27f) boyfriend (29m) recently found out he is at a high risk for diabetes and he is overweight on the BMI scale. His doctor told him he needs to start making changes to his diet.”
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She explained: “My boyfriend has always been a naturally bigger guy but recently he’s been eating more unhealthy, thus has gained 15 more pounds since the beginning of this year. Since his Drs appt he’s been trying to make more healthier meals at home instead of eating out, and he’s going to gym more often.
“I have been trying to be as supportive as I can for him and if I’m not able to go to the gym with him, I’ll ask if he wants to go jogging together or ride bikes.”
Unlike her boyfriend, she went on to say that she was the ‘opposite’ in regards to weight gain and loss. That she has “always been very slim” and has “trouble gaining weight”.
“I’ve just always had a really fast metabolism.” She said. “My diet isn’t great, but I do eat at home (especially more now since he’s been cooking and I eat his meals with him/or I make us both meals) but the problem is I snack a lot. I might have some ice cream at night after dinner or a cookie or two.”
But it turns out that her love for snacking was upsetting her boyfriend.
She continued: “My boyfriend has been making comments to me saying I need to stop the snacking in front of him because its not helping his diet. He becomes tempted when he sees me eating junk food and wants to join in.
“For example, a few nights ago after I got done from work, I decided to stop at dairy queen and I got a small sundae. My boyfriend ended up getting home earlier than expected so I walked in the house holding my sundae and he got upset.
“He said “oh my god… did you really need to get that? You don’t need to have a treat every night, you can go one day without it. This is just ridiculous.”
“Also, I bought some Hershey chocolates at the store the other day and put them in the pantry. When he was in the pantry getting stuff to make dinner with, he saw the chocolates and got mad. He told me I shouldn’t be buying this stuff and starts lecturing me on how bad it is.
“Every time he sees me with junk food, he makes several comments about how I need to be more healthier, how I don’t need to eat every time I feel hungry, one day this will all catch up to me and then I’ll regret eating this stuff. He also says I’m inconsiderate for eating it in front of him when he’s clearly trying to he healthier.”
She then goes on to say that she does “want to support him” and feels that she has been, but she doesn’t “think it’s fair he controls what I should and shouldn’t eat”.
“Idk, I do feel bad but at the same time,” she wrote, “I’m getting annoyed when he makes comments to me every time I want to enjoy something. AITA for this?? What can I do to be more supportive?”
There was not much sympathy for the poster in the comments. With one person asking if she even liked her boyfriend.
They replied: “OP do you like your BF? He’s trying to do something hard and has asked for your help. You are feeling put out because he gets triggered when he sees you eating junk food. While he will encounter people everyday eating junk they won’t trigger him the way you do as you live together!
At the very least, you should eat your junk where he can’t see it. You are entitled to eat what you want, when you want and however much you want, that is your right. Not doing it in front of your BF would be supportive in a very real way. You want to support him in the ways YOU want too, not in the ways that are most helpful.
“You’re NTA for eating what you do, YTA for doing it in front of him and keeping it in the house, where it will take double the discipline for him to be successful.”
“And he’s right.” They added, “All that junk snacking will catch up to you. Maybe not in 5 years, maybe not in 10, but it will catch up to you and when it does, you will be in his boat. Best you put some oars in your storage closet.”
Not everyone agreed that the poster was in the wrong though.
Another person replied: “give me a break. he has no business treating her like a child just because he’s pissy she can eat junk and he can’t. he can be a damn adult.”
To which someone replied: “Finally! Someone that gets it.”
What do you think? Is the girlfriend in the wrong or should the boyfriend get over it?
