Danni, originally from Florida, now living in Los Angeles, walked down the aisle in front of her friends and family to marry herself after embarking on a self-love journey – but is now seeking a male romantic partner
An independent woman who married herself at her dream wedding has been branded a “narcissist” by critics online. Danni, originally from Florida, now living in Los Angeles, spent £3,169 ($4,000) on a wedding to marry herself after embarking on a ‘self-love journey’.
The body image coach and body positivity influencer went viral last year after committing sologamy- the act of marrying yourself – but has since faced backlash for it. Speaking on YouTube channel’s Love Don’t Judge, Danni said: “I’m judged because I spent $4,000 on a wedding to marry myself. Before the wedding, I spent a couple of years in therapy, just really trying to find myself.
“During my self-love journey, I stopped drinking, I stopped having sex, I spent a lot of quality time with myself, taking myself on dates. Just really finding out what I like.” Growing up, Danni says she never understood a man’s part in a wedding day as it’s “all about the bride” – and admitted she has dreamed about marrying herself since she was a child.
She added: “Why can’t I love myself? Why can’t I marry myself? I’m not hurting anybody. I planned the wedding before I told anyone about it because I didn’t want anyone to deter me from marrying myself.” She says all of her family and friends came to support her as she walked down the aisle to say her vows into a mirror.
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However, not everyone agrees with sologamy, with Danni adding: “The most hurtful comment I experienced online was people saying that I had to marry myself because no one would want me. What messages are we sending people of size that they are unlovable, that they are unworthy? That’s not true, I can get married to a man tomorrow.
Since marrying herself, Danni has started dating again as she searches for a romantic partner, having already found a deep connection with herself. She said: “I will continue to inspire women and show little girls that loving themselves is the most beautiful thing they can do.”
Commenting on her unique marriage, one user said: “It’s a difference between narcissism and self-love. She loves herself and has confidence. As long as she’s happy, that’s all that matters. Hating her won’t make you a better person.” Another user added: “Why go on a date when you are already married to yourself?! Isn’t that cheating?”
A third user said: “I say good for her. Years ago I spent four times that amount to marry a complete jackass that I left within a year. If she’d have called it a ‘self-affirmation ceremony’, there wouldn’t have been a word said about it. She’s still hoping to find love with a partner… loving herself will help her to find a good person and not just settle for whoever comes along.”
One more user added: “You can love yourself without ‘marrying’ yourself. If anything, it shows you don’t really love yourself, as you clearly feel the need to meet some societal expectations. As if being married is required to establish a woman’s worth.”
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