‘I found my sister after we were adopted at birth but she’s angry I had a better life’

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A man who won the adoption jackpot says his biological sister is furious that she didn’t have the same experience growing up and feels she’s owed something now they’re older

A man who recently reconnected with his ‘real’ sister after he was adopted when he was just two years old has revealed how she is struggling to accept their different circumstances. Taking to social media to ask if he’s being inconsiderate, he explained that he knows he is “extremely fortunate and lucky” to have been adopted before he had any real memories of being in the system, and he’s fully aware that his adopted parents have given him a better life than his biological mum and dad ever could.

The 25-year-old gushed: “I grew up privileged, went to private schools, had holidays abroad, and had my tuition paid fully when I started Uni. I was loved and never lacked anything. I currently have a well-paying job as a chemical engineer, a beautiful wife, a house paid off fully by my in-laws, and 2 children. I’m very grateful for everything I have and recognize that I would be leading a very different life had I not been adopted.”

Having grown up without any contact from his biological family, he was shocked to be approached by a woman called Opel, 27, who claimed she was his sister and wanted to meet up. The two met, did a DNA test, and discovered they were related and had both been placed into social care around the same time.

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He went on: “Usually, foster care will try to keep siblings together, but for some reason we were not registered as siblings and were placed into different foster homes, probably due to having a different dad/surname, and being given up by different people. Opel got very upset by this discovery, even more so after she found out that while she was never adopted, I had lived a good life with loving parents.”

After learning this unfortunate truth, the man said that Opel began calling him regularly to ask if she could hang out with his parents and family. He went on: “It got uncomfortable really quickly since, to be frank I don’t know her that well, in all aspects except genetically she is a total stranger to me.

“I don’t feel comfortable lending her money or introducing her to my entire family. She even made a couple of comments that made me uneasy when she asked me if I thought my parents would have adopted her also had they known she existed when I was adopted, and if I think they would accept her into the family now.”

After several months, the man admitted Opel’s behaviour had become a real problem. He continued: “Last night she called me again, this time to complain how she saw that the women in my family had a get-together over the weekend and how she felt excluded since she didn’t get an invite. I told her that I get that she’s upset but that was a family get-together for all the women and she’s not family to them, so she’s not entitled to an invitation.”

According to the man, Opel began screaming at him shouting that it was unfair and that she should be considered family by extension. She even went one step further and said that he owes it to her to make sure she’s included in things as he got the good life by being adopted and she didn’t.

He finished: “I told her I’m sorry she feels excluded and that she wasn’t adopted but neither my family nor I owe her anything before hanging up the phone. Since then I’ve been receiving nonstop texts calling me an a**hole and an evil jerk, I’m starting to second guess myself and need an outside perspective on the situation.”

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People reading the complicated Reddit story were unnecessarily harsh about Opel and encouraged the man to cut her off completely. One person wrote: “It’s time to block her. You had no control over what happened to you as a 2-year-old and owe her nothing. I’m sorry she’s jealous of your life and how fortunate you are, but that has nothing to do with you.

“She can’t decide she’s a part of your family just because she wants what you have. She sounds a bit unstable, I don’t want to be unkind because I can’t know her experiences but again, it’s not your job to provide her with a family or money or favors or whatever she’s looking for.

“I’d look at this as a learning experience. You tried to do something and it didn’t work out. End of story and end of contact, because if not, she will drain you like the emotional vampire she appears to be.”

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