After harbouring ‘resentment’ toward her boyfriend for some time, a fed-up mum made up her mind to call it a day – but then he proposed in front of their young son
A woman who had initially resolved to dump her boyfriend has now found herself in an awkward position following a surprise proposal in front of their child.
According to this potential bride-to-be, she had been harbouring ‘resentment’ toward her other half for some time and, although she had wanted things to work out, and for their son to have ‘the best life possible’, he hasn’t treated her well.
Yesterday, he told her he was taking the day off to spend time with her and their son, and took them out to a garden. It was here that he blindsided her with a very important question she absolutely didn’t expect…
Taking to Reddit, the conflicted mum wrote: “We went to a garden. I was happy taking pictures and watching my son. I noticed he kept looking at his dad. And then he told me, ‘Dad wants to ask you’. I looked back at my boyfriend and that’s when he did it.
“I was silent for a few moments because I was genuinely surprised. My son said, ‘Mummy you have to say yes’. He had the biggest smile and was thrilled all day. I accepted for a couple of reasons. First, my son’s reaction melted my heart. Second, I didn’t want to reject or embarrass my boyfriend. I know that wouldn’t go well. We didn’t talk about this. But clearly, our son knew about it. I know this won’t fix the issues but I couldn’t let my son down.”
The situation has left the ‘overwhelmed’ mother unsure of what to do next. On the one hand, she likes the idea of marriage, especially given the many years they’ve been together, and the child they already share. On the other, however, she just doesn’t understand why he’s only asking for her hand now and wonders whether he’s been able to sense her growing detachment from the relationship.
A number of fellow Reddit users urged her not to accept the ring simply to avoid upsetting her son in the short term, with one person reminding her: “Problems that exist before marriage only get worse after and it’s harder to leave.”
Another warned: “He probably felt you pulling away and used your child to manipulate you into staying with him. Don’t marry this man if you don’t truly want to.”
Offering a cautionary tale, a third individual commented: “I had a really good friend whose parents stayed married ‘for the kids’. That house was so tense and her parents ugly fought constantly (dishes got thrown). Both she and her sister ran the second they each turned 18 and went low contact with both of their parents. It absolutely NEVER works out well.”
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