A woman was left angered when she heard that her sister wanted to get her photoshopped out of an image taken at her wedding – and others agreed it wasn’t ‘respectful’
It’s amazing how professionals can work their magic when it comes to wedding photos, but tweaking them isn’t always appropriate.
One woman was left miffed when her sister made a photoshop-related admission to her – but she thought it was “weird”. The woman shared that sadly, her mum had died five years ago after she’d gotten married, and her 28-year-old little sister was due to be married soon.
“At my wedding six years ago, the photographer took a photo of my mum fastening a necklace around my neck. My little sister has told multiple people that when she gets married, she plans to hire someone with graphic design skills to remove me from that photo and photoshop herself in my place”, she wrote.
She continued on Reddit: “So far, I’ve said nothing, but I’ve always felt hurt by that idea and now that she is actually planning a wedding, I am wondering if I should put my foot down. At the same time, I don’t want to add to her pain either.”
The woman then gave some further context to her story, writing: “Very shortly after our mum died, all my sisters (including my older married sisters) expressed that they wanted our mum’s engagement ring. As my little sister didn’t get to have our mum at her wedding and the rest of us did get that experience, I urged my dad to hang on to our mum’s engagement ring for our little sister for when she eventually was to get engaged.
“Ultimately, I was successful in advocating for her to inherit our mum’s ring. Once engaged, she decided to reset the ring so the only part of it that remains is the central diamond – it is a completely different design now and is unrecognisable. We are all a bit miffed by that but what’s done is done.”
Then, the woman explained that she was to get married again as she was divorced from the marriage her mum attended, and she and her sister both wanted to use their mum’s wedding dress. She said that her sister “plans to alter it beyond recognition”, but she used the ‘I didn’t have mum at my wedding’ card, and the woman “dropped her bid” to wear the dress.
“But at this point, I feel inclined to draw the line at removing me from my own photo with my mum”, she continued. “Yes, I did get to have my mum at my [first] wedding. I won’t have her at my wedding to the person I’ll be spending the rest of my life with, so I’m feeling some sadness there too. If someone is going to be photoshopping someone out of that picture, I feel it should be me photoshopping my 24 year old self out for my 31 year old self.
“She also has tons of photos with our mum she could use for this purpose instead, as well as photos of our mum solo that no one would need to be removed from. Obviously, I can’t force her to not do as she pleases with the photo, but would I be the a**hole if I told her I’m not ok with that and that she doesn’t have my permission or blessing to remove me from my wedding photo with my mum?”
In the comments, people were confused about why her sister would want to do that. One wrote: “I think your sister would be the biggest a**hole in the world for taking a very precious moment of yours, and photoshopping herself into it, and playing it off as her own moment.”
Another added: “Girl if she photoshops herself into that picture, you photoshop some damn demon horns onto her in it and send it right back. Okay maybe don’t go that far. But for serious, this seems…really weird and slightly unhealthy to me?” Someone else urged: “It’s okay to say no sometimes”.
A Redditor fumed: “I’ve seen a lot of people ask painters to add a love one to their wedding paintings as a way to have them there. I’ve also seen people photoshop someone into a group picture of the current wedding. But to take someone else’s wedding photo and just photoshop her own face is bordering on disrespectful and creepy. If she really wants to add her mum to her wedding there are so many more respectful ways to do it.”
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